Female Sexual Satisfaction: Promoting Fertility

Earlier this week, in my last blog post, I discussed “Female Sexual Satisfaction: The Case for Post-Play.”  In it I include the paragraph:

When a woman achieves orgasm, the cilia – the little hairs that move fluid – at the opening of her fallopian tubes go crazy. Then start suctioning in everything they can, including sperm containing semen. It is not a great leap to understand that if a woman achieves her satisfaction in the presence of semen – your satisfaction – there’s a tremendous evolutionary advantage. That is, there is a better chance of fertilizing an egg that is entering or in the fallopian tubes.

Coincidentally, or perhaps not so, I’ve seen a lot of chatter on Twitter this week about fertility, infertility, and the inability to conceive or become pregnant. Sorry – I had to get all the keywords in there.

I thought I might have glanced over the topic of fertility as it relates to female sexual satisfaction of the physical kind, that is, Orgasm. So here’s a brief synopsis that builds on the quoted paragraph above.

Female orgasm promotes fertility. If you (speaking to the women, now) have no diagnosed reason why you are not fertile, if you do not have blocked fallopian tubes, if you are producing viable eggs, if you do not have a hormonal condition or any other basis for not being able to get pregnant, then try having an orgasm.

Having an orgasm will get your man’s sperm-containing-semen where it has to be to fertilize your egg, while turning sex into a mechanical process just to get pregnant defeats the purpose on several levels:

• It has been clearly demonstrated in clinical testing that tension, anxiety, and desperation to get pregnant are counterproductive. These emotions cause your adrenal glands to produce essential  hormones out of balance and will interfere with your uterine environment. You may have a fertilized egg that just won’t be able to grab onto your uterus; medically, the implantation of the fertilized egg/blastula/embryo is what is called conception. Many psychologists recommend going on vacation to promote pregnancy. Take a trip to Cabo. Make love on the beach.
• Making sex a loving activity will promote your sexual satisfaction, and cause your body to produce those hormones and other pharmacologically active compounds that promote fertilization, conception, and a healthy baby.
•  Finally, don’t you want your baby to be produced in the most loving act a man and a woman can share rather than being conceived when mom has a thermometer in one hand and with the sound of "I'm ovulating!" echoing in the room? Enjoy it. Your baby will, too.

Perfect timing (speaking to the men, now) is not always possible.  As stated in the previous post, the best time for your woman to have that orgasm is after you’ve had yours, that is, when your semen is present and moving into her uterus.

If you as a couple have the intention to become pregnant, then, regardless of the number and intensity of the orgasms the woman has leading up to her man’s ejaculation, she should continue for one more nice one. I describe in my previous post one sexual technique for doing just that: Post-Play.

Another technique is for the man to use his hand to stimulate his woman to have another orgasm.  The woman must cooperate, of course, relaxing and allowing herself that additional pleasure. If he’s not good at that, ladies, do it yourself. Let him watch. How else is he going to learn?

Last, make love to her with your mouth. Which brings us to another related topic: There is nothing that two rational loving people can do together that is disgusting. Men, think about the times your woman has loved you with her mouth after you’ve already had sex. Yeah, some of her was left behind and that didn’t stop her. Turnabout is fair play. If a little of you is left on her, you won’t taste it anyway, not with all of her that is there.

Just love that woman.

Think about how great a toast that will make at your kid’s wedding. "Yes, little Johnnie/Janie would not have come into this world, if I didn’t go down on Mom after we had sex on that beach in Cabo."

Good luck.

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Female Sexual Satisfaction: the Case for Post-Play

It’s clichéd. You (speaking to men) finish making love to your woman. You’re reasonably sure from her movements that she’s achieved substantial satisfaction. She’s sweating. You’re sweating. Hearts are racing and mutual smiles and a few tender kisses are exchanged.

Now what? Assuming you don’t hear her husband’s car pulling into the driveway, you stay awhile. Perhaps you stay inside for a bit until nature almost pulls you out all by itself. You lay next to her. If you really want her to look eagerly forward to your next encounter, you’ll cuddle.

But is that enough?

Advanced lovers touch there women after sex, too. You caress her. You move your hands gently over her body. To kiss her breasts, you stroke her thighs. Not with the same, “we’re going to have sex” touch you used a little earlier, but with a “thank you” feel in your hands and your lips. Some women don’t mind you bringing them to orgasm yet again with your hand. Certainly, if you think there’s any question as to her how often or intensely she’s had them, you’ll want to – need to –do this.

There’s another technique that’s based in evolutionary biochemistry that most men do not know. Let me explain the science, and then I’ll tell you what to do with it.

Within a few hours after vaginal ejaculation, certain proteins that are specifically found in semen are detectable in a woman’s blood. Whether those proteins cross into her blood stream through her vagina, or her uterus is unclear, but they’re there.

When a woman achieves orgasm, the cilia – the little hairs that move fluid – at the opening of her fallopian tubes go crazy. Then start suctioning in everything they can, including sperm containing semen. It is not a great leap to understand that if a woman achieves her satisfaction in the presence of semen – your satisfaction – there’s a tremendous evolutionary advantage. That is, a better chance of fertilizing an egg entering or in the fallopian tubes.

Put these two facts together and you have a fantastic sex technique for getting your woman to practically beg for sex... and from you.

After you ejaculate, proteins in your seminal fluid activate a biochemistry, perhaps a neuro-biochemistry, that makes her more sensitive to stimulation and more likely to have an orgasm. In “regular” sex, you stop when you’ve cum. But in this technique, after a brief pause to regroup – you don’t want to step on your own punch line – you continue. Move in and out slowly, but deliberately. Stroke as long and deep as you can, and make sure to press down to contact her clitoris with your pelvis. A small circular motion helps contact.

The biochemistry takes hold and, you shouldn’t be surprised as she starts to respond again. In many women, this post-play provides her with the longest and deepest orgasm of the entire love-making session. It is something she’s never felt before, and has not experienced with any other man. You’re a hero.

Now, two things you have to worry about. First, “Where the hell did you learn that?” might put you in an awkward situation. Have a printout of this blog handy. Second, if your woman is used to having you just roll over and go to sleep, then she may mentally stop herself from seeking any further satisfaction as soon as she feels you finish. It IS okay for you to discuss this with her. Tell her you’re going to try something new that is intended solely for her satisfaction. Again, you’ll be a hero.

One other issue: This depends to some extent on your maintaining at least a partial erection after ejaculation. If you penis shrinks to a mushroom cap after your orgasm, then you can’t do this very well, though manual stimulation – with your hand, as suggested earlier – will still work. But to prevent immediate retraction of your penis, you need to be fully potent.

This technique is mentioned, along with a few others, in my men’s health book detailed below. It’s not a technique guide; I don’t want to mislead you into thinking it is. It’s an overall health guide that will also keep you potent, so you can stay inside of her long enough to drive her to the limit.

Feel free to leave a comment and share your tale of glory.

2nd Edition updated May 2012.

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Erectile Dysfunction, Obesity, Diet and Sustainable Weight Loss

I don’t think any of you would argue that the man pictured here is obese. The accumulated pressure of all his fat distorts his skin and weighs down on his pants. This particular kind of distention is commonly called “belly fat,” as if it really needs a special name. It is particularly disgusting to woman who can’t imagine themselves being compressed under your girth. However, you may not even try, because this form of obesity often causes erectile dysfunction.

Belly fat is like an iceberg. The fat you see is only a small portion of the fat you’ve got. Most if it is on the inside. It clogs your arteries and it compresses your organs and applies pressure to sensitive nerves and blood vessels.

Just as this man’s pants are being pushed down under the weight of his external fat, his organs are being pushed down inside of him as well. This can restrict the blood flow to his penis – no blood pressure, then no erection – and it can irritate the nerves that carry the signal from his brain to his erectile machinery and, again, no erection.

Dieting, that is, classic dieting will not help. Even if you’re just “big” like this guy, chances are that life will not let you get on the kind of program that allows for sustainable weight loss to keep you motivated. The key word here is sustainable, and weight loss that keeps the weight off is slow, consistent, and healthy weight loss.

That will happen only with a change in your lifestyle.

The good news is:

·         You don’t have to completely give up anything you like to eat;

·         You don’t have to completely give up everything you like to drink;

·         You don’t have to do two hours a day at the gym;

·         You DO have to cut down, moderate, modify, actually eat more – but of healthier food – and work on your attitude about yourself and life in general.

But you have to start sometime. Do you want to be where you are now, 5 years from now? And you’ll be 5 years older as well. As an unhealthy individual, metabolically, you could be 10 years older for having done nothing to stop your weight gain. Yes, you will, on average, gain 3 to 5 pounds a year, if you’re over 50, and much of that will be internal fat – organ obesity.

To say that there’s too much to put into a blog posting to actually give you a list of what you have to do would be obvious. There’s enough to fill an entire book. As a matter of fact, I wrote the book and there’s a link at the bottom of this page.

But I’ve also found some other information about non-dieting weight loss. You can take a look at http://www.nondiet.com/blog/ as a place to start.

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Available in all eBook formats for immediate download: http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/65109. 

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