Friday, June 10, 2011

Penis Sensitivity: Erectile Dysfunction, Orgasms, and Ejaculation - Part II

Skin is the largest organ of the human body. It is the first line of defense against infection, it maintains the fluid levels in your body and, as the Allan Sherman parody of the song [You’ve gotta have] Heart from Damn Yankees said, “You’ve gotta have skin... it’s what keeps your insides in.”

Guys who frequently work with their hands, especially those who labor manually for a living, understand that the skin on their palms and fingers gets thicker, harder, and rougher. Women, who often wear high heeled shoes, will develop thick calluses on the balls of their feet. This is the skin’s way of ensuring that a rupture at the site of heavy use is prevented from occurring. Your body puts on extra layers – a natural glove or sock – as protection to the vital mechanisms that lie beneath.

As one gets older, this process becomes less specific. We men all recognize the difference between a 25 year old woman’s skin and that of a 55 year old. Sorry, ladies, there really IS a noticeable loss of softness, elasticity and suppleness, though many men of the same era, including me, entirely appreciate you just the way you are.

Men don’t escape the ravages of the decades. Our skin suffers the same deterioration over time. In the context of this discussion, I have to be the bearer of bad news: a man’s penis is no different from the rest of him. Skin will thicken, and nerve ending will be more shielded from the outside world.

Your penis can develop calluses as well. Though not as visible as the thickened heel of an avid jogger, frequent unlubricated masturbation can cause the buildup of skin masking the nerve ending of the penis.

And there’s more...

As we age, our sensory systems start to wear out. It is unnecessary to point out that hearing, sight and the ability to discern nuances of taste, all begin to fade beginning as early as our 40s. By the time most people – both men and women – are in their 50s the degradation is noticeable, though often does not hamper daily activity. Sometime in our 60s, certainly by our 70s, other people start yelling at us when they speak, and those damn waitresses start giving us menus with really, really tiny type.

Our ability to feel – our “touch” sense – is not immune from the years either. Lose of tactile ability occurs all over the body including the head of the penis, further exacerbating the effects of thickening skin.

So, what do you do to revitalize and increase the sensitivity of one’s penis?

If you’ve found this blog posting, they you’ve also surfed the web looking for products that are “guaranteed” to increase your sensitivity. I’ve done some research and found that the potions offered are little more than basic skin cream.

Next time you’re in a motel, take the little bottle of hand lotion that’s offered on the bathroom counter, and rub that on your dick and let it sit. If you’re alone, you may be inspired to take the process one step further, but don’t. Just sit there. Look at your dick and the cream. Screw that; jerk off. The cream won’t do you any good anyway.

The creams, oils and ointments don’t work. Some have some menthol in them, or other “tingly” kind of herbal preparation, but that isn’t increasing sensitivity, it just feels kinda good – or so I’m told. Some of it may be very uncomfortable for your woman. You’ve got to be careful of that.

But here’s what to do. First, if you’re having regular sex with a woman, then don’t masturbate between encounters with her. This will both make you hornier and more sensitive to physical stimulation, as well as allow your prostate and seminal vesicles to fill completely.

Men get hornier than women because we have a physical and physiological basis for our horn. Our sperm-generating mechanism keeps on producing the little buggers until our storage tanks are filled... and then they keep producing more, though the vesicles can sense what they are full.

Let me repeat that – the storage tanks for sperm can “feel” when they are full. Pressure builds in them. At a conscious level you cannot feel that pressure, but it causes hormonal changes in your body and what you do sense is horniness. Sometimes this is enough to drive you crazy until you achieve release. Ever been there? Doesn’t take much to go the distance, does it? Save that one for your lady.

If you’re not in a relationship and can’t afford a steady stream of prostitutes, then just take it easy when you masturbate. Use some lubricant; hand lotion from the motel will work fine. It will prevent thickening of the skin due to abrasion and assist in softening it at least as well as the high-priced dick-creams. And don’t ever jerk-off in the morning; you never know who you’ll meet later in the day.

The good news is that sexual nerve endings are so sensitive that even with the impediments of generalize loss of the tactility and increased thickness of the skin, they still work pretty well.

Your partner may have to help with a little extra physical – manual or otherwise – stimulation to get you going, but unless your loss of sensation is clinical, you should be able to achieve erection, orgasm, and ejaculation.

If you feel that you’re still just not getting enough stimulation, let’s not forget that entire arena of visual arousal. Your partner can provide opportunity for you to observe her. She should spend more time naked while preparing herself for you, allowing you to enjoy her body visually. Watching sex movies together – I do not agree with the moniker “pornography” – or even watching one alone as a prelude to sex can also give you a head start on getting wood.

Perfume or other scents that reminds you of romantic and sexual encounters is also very effective, even if they take you back forty years and dozens of women. Second only to direct physical stimulation, olfaction – smell – is the most powerful of the erotic senses. It is tied directly to the limbic system, also called the Reptilian brain, which is among the oldest of the brain’s structures. All reptiles did was eat, shit and make more reptiles. It’s a very powerful part of the brain directing animal behaviors including the stimulation for sex. And they never, ever suffered from a reptile dysfunction.

Most importantly, drop all your worries, all your anger, all your outrage, and all your discontents on the floor with your clothes before getting into bed. Just as a mental image can cause arousal, brain-sewage can clog your ability to get a boner in a flash. Clear your mind, clear your calendar, and clear the way for great sex.


2nd Edition updated May 2012.

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2 comments:

  1. What about those of us who suffer ED and desensitivity due to medications - especially SSRI antidepressants? Are there any tips on achieving orgasm in this case?

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